Parenting styles

Parenting styles

While you have come to this page it is important that at the end of this information you get to learn what parenting styles that parents may be using or should be adopted and those to refrain. 

And while the objectives of this post is that readers are taken through on;

•Meaning of parenting style;

• Formulated as seen parenting styles;

• Is it really important that parents adopt parenting style in raising (their) children? ;

• Why parenting style may get to improve parents and their children.

Meaning of parenting style; 

You may be amazed that parenting is a thing of joy and a journey in the lives of many parents, but many parents still never knew that they may adopt (certain) styles in parenting their children but for the good of it. 

But if they get to find that parenting is becoming too cumbersome to make life as easy for them and for their kids, then adopting parenting style(s) that will bring the joy, relief and happiness should be used. 

How you may parent your children so as to get or see the needful outcome or desire of a worthy emulation traits in a parent would possibly be determined by your parenting styles. 

However, the style of your parenting should not affect you and your children that anyone would be regretting it in the end. 

Your parenting style(s) should be flexible, should be worthy of emulation, and ultimately bringing out the most objectives and goals of a parent and that of their children. 

The parenting styles you decide to adopt today may however determine the quality and results that you want to see in your children and generally with your family in the close future. 

It is similar or just akin to each country of the world (maybe) the system or style they may use to rule their citizens, and that may determine the success or woes of such a country and -- such too is with the parenting style that may be adopted. 

Formulated as seen parenting styles; 

In this section; I would love to share with you “a formulated as seen by me parenting styles" that any parent who need parenting techniques or guidelines and styles that can bring harmony between them and their children could use, and while some won’t be recommended as some are mentioned or given below. 

So when we talk about styles, parenting styles outcome or effect could either be harmful or beneficial and could help to change things practically. 

As parents, I really implore you not to be as A&O to your children, it doesn’t make you breathe and likewise your children. 

But one striking thing in the effective parenting styles is to become your children’s close friend. 

The parenting styles are as follow:

1. Filling up the gap parenting: 

This parenting style is the type of style that sees to and ensures that whatever thing it is that could be missing (out) in the life of their children is worked towards to in filling up the gap of certain weaknesses found in their children. 

This at all is not bad parenting style; but however, parents shouldn't grow anxious when they may discover certain incapability in their children. 

And at times too, such incapability should be taken advantage of in the moment and in a systematic form, but shouldn't be made in such a way to further input more fears into their children when discovered – only through such, is by letting your child(ren) know from you that they are getting helped, and as such by the work you may try to invest in them to become strong enough in overcoming their weakness or incapability they may go through life. 

That, with time, they get to be encouraged or building that needful courage to surmount their fears/weaknesses. Such is the parenting style that later in the future get to mold the life of a child to be great and influential in life. And such good example is Ben Carson’s (The Gifted Hands) story and his mother!

2. The dictatorial parenting style: 

This parenting style comes with much dominance by the parents, and practically never or would seldom give their children to air their thoughts, views, mind or ideas to their parent(s). 

Parent(s) in this case can become dictates while their children subject. 

If you can remember in one of my previous post, I said, that parenting should be a thing of a teamwork and collaboration between you and your children in the parenting guidelines notes. 

If parents or one of the parents continues to be dictating, in the long run, their children may imbibe it, cultivate it and may use it anywhere such as bullying at school and may also on the other side can make their children or for some children become inexpressible, fearful/timid before others. [This parenting style is not suggested]

3. Democratic parenting style: 

This type of parenting, as the name implies, goes within a family; will get everyone to know that parents become influencing, their children also get influencing too and that everyone gets to benefit from one another of what make their family go progressing in whatever manner or situation. 

This parenting system is infused into their children right at an early stage by their parents (and while parents already have it in them) to know and realize that whatever helps you, you  make use of it also to help or influence everyone in the family and/or siblings too probably. 

[This parenting style can be mutually rewarding and beneficial but when used or reserved in the other way round can be adverse and hurtful to family members/or to children/siblings]

4. Never mind or care parenting style: 

This type of parenting style tends to propagate or come to play by the parent(s) involved mostly due to psychological or background reasons and parents not being able to see into the welfare of their family and kids. 

This kind of parenting styles leave out love and care for spouse and their kids. Not that they may not love or get loving again, but the perception that love and care is just no more of acceptance to them. [This parenting style is not suggested]

5. Industrious/capitalist style: 

This type of parenting style can be willingly adopted if parents are aware of its huge benefits; parents who are really conscious of the rewarding benefits that it could bring are naturally opined or would get adopted to ensure this style is used to govern their family and children. 

By this, the whole concept or idea is that children are trained, influenced and get growing in the practical knowledge and development room of being industrious, while being nurtured and trained by their parents to be business inclined, the gurus and capitalist driven minds right from their childhood.

 

6. Chore programmed style: 

It can be seen as the most common parenting style that is being cultivated and adopted and usually by a lots of parents (sorry about that). 

The chore programmed parenting style would get to be more given into business and chores at home, and get reserved to do more chores in the day or throughout the day. 

And if they can’t bear the capacity of resetting to work consistently when the need be they have to bring in their children to always do those chores for them and the children. 

Nothing actually is bad about this though, but parents who are not bothered at all make so much duty that their children overdo much chores at home or get going errands for them without simply creating special time for recreation and other mind growing programs that could also better develop their children as they get to grow. 

Basically, your children may need to do one thing or the other for you or for themselves in the home but ensure that they are not overwhelmed or lopsided without others special measures being put in place for them to get them growing excellently and enjoying their time. 

You may even decide better to create roaster for chores and recreational time for your children and you, and that you ensure into proper organization of activities in the home and get following it up possibly every day.

7. The do-all for their kids’ style: 

This is a manner of parenting style that practically involves the way parent(s) may get to view things for their children’s incapability or even capability they have -- by the act of getting to do all manner of things for them – even if they have the potentials or capacity to do so. 

It may look so good to help your children out to do many of the things they have the potentials to do by themselves, but you must know and let them also know that: 

Son or daughter “I will give this to you as an example but you follow it up with this example because I may not repeat doing this again for you”. 

As parents, it is not all what you can do for your children that may matter or get improving them, if you do all for them at their detriment they are left bareheaded, lost and become incompetent to do many things that life may throw to them as challenge. 

Even if you are the wealthy parents, or the so supportive parents, let them also learn to build their own wealth or success with little or no assistance from you and once may be you’ve shown to them with example.

 

8. The terror parenting style: 

As the name suggests, parents adopting such parenting styles never know what they are doing in the first place, they are usually problematic and can have psychological issues when closely examined. 

They are the parent(s) who think it is just the best to put their children under the strong influence and control of terror or complete dominance and without them having any voice of their own. 

If parent(s) may physically be abusing and really adverse they never allow their children to know any peace in life – they may go to the extent of physically abusing, maltreating and battering their own children even unnecessarily.

 

9. The teaching or teachable style; 

This is another parenting style that some parent(s) believes that children should be thought on whatever has best benefit or would be beneficial to them in life. 

With this style, only understanding parent(s) may come to the level of their children to teach them and to polish them aright. They go enough to the extent in ensuring that (their) children are improving in knowledge and wisdom every time. 

They also fight to the extent of teaching them to become the outstanding products of achievements. Such parent(s) either way gets to invest time, money, proper values into their kids; they are the parents that are synonymous to coach who don’t give any room for their children in becoming a product of failure.   

Is it really important that parents adopt parenting style in raising (their) children?;

Basically, parenting is a thing of a choice and/or agreement between spouses. And before you decided you want to be in relationship or start building a family, you have made up your mind (clearly) that you want to be a parent somedays. 

Parenting is not a thing of force, it's a self-choice with measure of responsibility; and when choosing it, then you ought to be equipped with the right and helpful knowledge (ideal info) to be the ideal kind of parents. 

However, now, the question is that, 

“Is it really important that parents adopt parenting style in raising (their) children?” 

It is a yes or no answer! 

But parents who know genuinely the purpose of raising (their) children and what could also be the outcome of it may decide to choose, to adopt or follow a parenting style that will not harm them and harm their children in the long run. 

So, one as a parent needs adequate and proper understanding to become an ideal kind of parent that your children would be glad they have you as their parent(s) and you having them as your children. So it practically takes enough responsibility and wisdom in guiding your children and giving them the proper tutelage. 

Why parenting style may get to improve parents and their children; 

Parents with some weaknesses of sort should keep improving themselves and get educating themselves in parental education and in the process of what an ideal parenting is all about, and select also a good model or parenting style that can help them and their kids in achieving success in the area of their weaknesses. 

If a parent is a terror, it is a weakness in him/her, therefore, the envisaging way out of the exit door is to realize his/her mission as a parent (–not to deceive himself), and what good thing has he/she has to fulfill with it following that path? 

That a parent following such path can only change his ways and learn to try to adopt a proper model/or style to lead on his children, and with that his children won’t fail to realize him for changing for good, thereby reaccepting him and absolutely become happy with him/her again.  

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