Parenting goals

 

Parenting goals

While you have come to this page it is important that at the end of this information you get to learn what parenting goals entail.

And the objectives of this post is that readers are taken through on;   

• Introduction to parenting goals;
• Ideal parenting goals that contribute to success of a family; 
• When parenting goals are not defined and well instituted; 
• Parental goals vs children goals; 
• How to achieve most success of parental goals in a family.

 Introduction to parenting goals:

One of the ideal pictures in the minds of many parents is to have goals and not just goals but goals that will ensure they become successful in the end and as parents in every facet of parenting.

But today and right from time, many parents have seemed to lost their purpose to match the goals of what they should lead on essentially as parents.

While parenting can be a very challenging role to play these days and with all steps involved in meeting one’s spouse, coming into a relationship, getting married, planning a family, raising children and many more being attached to in order to ensure whatever goals set in the journey of parenting turned success.

Ideally, parenting as a topic on its own is complex, still it could be the easiest goals and roadmap to achieve success when parenting and when parents essentially know what to follow as a guide.

Every parent’s goals differ from the other.

Therefore, parent basically may already know what they plan to achieve.

However, not to make things so complex, there are primary goals and secondary goals that all parents should create and achieve.

But critically, in this post we will be looking carefully at what really matter most as to what every primary goals of (successful) parents need to create and achieve in their family.

On the larger side too we also dream to have a functional and working society that is honest and civil, then it begins with parenting goals set by parents and that is being offered and set in each family.

In the following paragraphs, I will essentially be listing out power points that should never be missed out as the primary targets of parenting goals, because as parents that are still budding there are rules/principles that could be followed if your goals are to be successful in the end.

Ideal parenting goals that contribute to success of a family:

In reality and most times, we all at kids (then) and way back had wished we have a family one day and definitely find it a way to achieve many things in it that simply make life as bed of roses.

But rarely does reality of life give us the power to meet up with those goals as we age and get to face reality changing before us.

However, we should not allow reality to change or completely mutate us as the ever causing power is always available to create the much ideal parenting goals that can absolutely contribute to the success of our family.

The primary ideal parenting goals should be carefully thought out if we want to achieve great success with them. 

And this is where we ought not to allow intense reality behind life influence the parenting goals to be set. 

When setting goals as parents there are two parameters that could be incorporated so that when goals are not met or fulfilled or turning out as successful then it is possible that there are some holes to be filled.

The needful goals to be created is what could be the guide to a successful turn out in parenting. But if goals are not well planned out and ascertained for its purpose it means a failed assignment. 

And this is not what any ideal parent would want to see if it (they) won’t become a failing parents or parenting system. It’s therefore important that parents must carefully know why they are being parents and what roles they need to fulfill to create one out of the best family ever.

When parents get it right, the whole system becomes uncorrupted.

When healthy goals are fed into the family system the result is an unfailing family system. But many parents can get it twisted thinking they are creating or imputing ideal goals into the family when they are actually getting it wrong.

Because of time, as parents, when making goals, ensure that they are goals that cover every member of the family and welfare, as you would want these goals to affect or touch every member of the family in such a positive manner and in a challenging manner. Otherwise these goals may not be effective and create a progressive turn out in the end.

So when talking about positive manner, it is the end point of result of achievement of goal set. And when talking about the challenging part, it is the effect of end point that everyone is affected positively to reach their individual and collective goals.

In summary, these parenting goals are: 

1. Personal goals 

2. Collective goals 

3. Physical needs/Health goals 

4. Spiritual goals 

5. Accommodation goal 

6. Social goals 

7. Financial goals 

8. Developmental goals 

9. Civic/Responsibility goals 

10. Intellectual Capacity goals 

11. Relationship goals 

12. Futuristic goals etc.

When parenting goals are not defined and well instituted:

Much problem tends to surge in a family if parenting goals that should help to constitute adequate welfare of a family and structure are not well defined, known, spelt out and instituted into the system and such that, these goals will not get to affect anyone as being an outcast but as a byproduct of the family success.   

There are goals that ought to be known by the children when they are created so that when everyone ought to add effort in one part or other it wouldn’t be strange to anyone when being executed or applied. 

It could be a guide to building a strong family that would be problem proof if all play their responsibilities. 

And, that goals of parents in the family are properly known and may not clash/or affect children’s personal goal as they grow to be independent.

 Parental goals vs children goals:

This is where parents should learn how to balance and help incorporate their own goals with families’ goal and children’s goal.

One however should not outweigh (disrupt) the influence of the other if a healthy and social unity should hold in the family.

And it is the responsibility of the children too however to let their parents know when and where they may be missing it because it’s very possible that parents might misunderstand and try to enforce ineffective parenting goals and rules that however (may) never get to help their children and the family at large.

Since it is not every parent that gets to be informed on how their goals should create the most positive growth of everyone in the family and without anyone regretting.  

How to achieve most success of parental goals in the family:

This can be the hardest and toughest part to set and to achieve. The question here remains that what parenting goals that may be created is, how healthy could it be or how is going to change the dynamics of the members of the family - in a positive term and without anyone being affected negatively or as a result of negative parental dictates (arising) by their goals.

One thing that matter most is that are parents going to be getting it right in coming up with parenting goals that won't in the long run become a problem and burden to anyone in the family?

However, achieving the most success while using parental goals will all and better lie in taking adequate responsibility, accepting to correction and resulting to…much improvements as parents get to learn better of what parenting ought to be.

Therefore, here written below are on what suitable of rules and idea in parenting goals

1. Understanding and connecting more to your family; 

Many parents don’t seem to understand the different personalities in each member of the family particularly the children.

And when there’s not much understanding and deep relationship, connection or getting connected to every member of the family such may prove abortive.

      It becomes the fact that many parents want to connect more to their children, know their persons, and get spending much time with them, that which could be ineffective since parents duly make it a hard road to follow up their parenting goals as regards this manner.

2. Parents need to watch on their temperaments if they are uncontrollably harsh; 

Many parents seem to have the overview of what life is all about or may be in their nature; and other parents may pick the ideas about life as always been accurate/perfect or just right to them when applying or just applying to parental rules on their families.

If this is run, some parents tend to overrule these principles based on their belief systems, ideologies and following their temperaments to do this, and this may get them not to be really successful with their parenting goals.

3. Take your family values as the major focus; 

      Once you have the right values that you need to incorporate into your family, then you may need to judge it and see ahead if it gets to offer to you and your family the ideal goals of an ideal parenting.

Family values are the main reflections of the kind of (people in) that family. The society we get to live in now can only become the best only if the right morals and positive values are the only judge and stake of all the members in a family, therefore you need to model the right values that you want to see in your family.

It therefore begins with more by saying and acting by the words such as: 

“I’m sorry”, 

      “I really care for you”, 

      “May I offer you help”, 

      "Oh! You forgot this”, 

      “No, That’s bad, I can’t do that”, 

      “I will be there right away”, 

     “Good morning”, 

     “Good day” 

     "I promise, I’m getting it done”, 

     "Trust me", 

     "Please, I need…Can you?” and lots more of value system and morals.

4. Place more priority on the rules made and consequences effected; 

In the process of being loving parents, and there ought to be measure of discipline and responsibility being put in place in your parenting goals for the family.

Let your children adequately and practically know that there are liable consequences for not owing to or taking up responsibility for what they need to do or say.

Make it clearer enough and adequately communicate your rules, principles; but it is still ideal that parents do not enforce rigid (strict) rules that may become loggerhead and that which can come to affect their kids and their own kids too in the future. 

Essentially just owe it up to them, guide them and spell it out to them that when they don’t learn to take much responsibilities for themselves they actually do themselves a disservice and to humanity. 

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